Soldier On

Many praise a soldier’s devotion to the unit, and most understand the implications when a traitor betrays comrades. In the workplace,however, loyalty and disloyalty often come in more subtle packages. Some might assume a coworker committed a wrong instead of talking to the coworker first. Many who would not directly slander someone will make excuses that reflect negatively on others. Beware if you hear yourself say, “I probably shouldn’t tell you this, but….”

Sacrifice Daily

Where there is no loyalty, order breaks down, and personal advantage becomes the only ethic. Loyal individuals affirm team members and make sacrifices so that others can succeed.

Though many associate personal sacrifice with misery, every choice involves some sacrifice. A person who would lead an organization might have less time for social events. Someone else might decline a promotion in order to avoid relocating his or her family.

Value Others

When you are busy, when you have a bad day, and when others are difficult, carefully consider what you can do to help each person around you. Consistent loyalty requires consistent consideration for others in spite of stressful situations.

A loyal employee will support organizational goals and will not circumvent supervisors to get what he or she wants. Loyal family members resolve issues rather than make individuals choose sides. A loyal employer corrects an employee privately, clearly, and directly.

Stand Firm

Identify how you can show loyalty in each relationship. Look beyond expectations, and find ways to benefit others.

Loyalty to parents would include obedience during childhood and might involve care and assistance later in life. When someone experiences a family tragedy, find ways to give practical assistance. When you hear a friend unfairly criticized, do not allow your silence to imply agreement.

Loyalty in the Balance

Pursue Justice

Justice is “taking personal responsibility to uphold what is pure, right, and true.” Those who lack personal convictions rarely show dependability or loyalty. Without justice, loyalty loses direction and purpose. Tell the truth, even when it hurts. Justice makes the difference between a flatterer and a loyal friend.

Find True Security

Security is "structuring my life around that which cannot be destroyed or taken away.” Others’ negative reactions can make life difficult. As you uphold commitments, take responsibility for your part of each relationship, and focus on how you can respond with integrity, regardless of others’ actions.

Practice Alertness

Alertness is "being aware of what is taking place around me so I can have the right responses." Relationships require constant vigilance so that "small" offenses do not lead to big breakdowns. Be aware of those around you, and notice the circumstances in their lives. Pay attention to their needs and feelings.